One day I will . . .
“Stop answering to a boss.”
“Get the body I’ve always wanted.”
“Start a family.”
“Live in a house near the water.”
“Try Krav Maga.”
“Write a novel.”
“Learn to cook paleo meals.”
“Move to Paris!”
“Start my dream business!”
“Bike through Tuscany.”
Does any of this sound familiar? One day . . . one day . . . one day. Well, the truth of the matter is, that proverbial “one day” never comes, does it? Ever.
So, while your big dreams sit on a shelf in your mind, you feel increasingly frustrated, bored, and inauthentic. You feel in your bones that you are living a half-life – not the full life that you know deep down is yours for the taking.
So, what’s the antidote here? I’m so glad you asked, my friend! Here are six simple tips that will transform “one day” into TODAY:
- Make Time.
You will never find the time to do anything. You must make it (and protect it). Clear a block of at least two to four hours a week to get your dream started. Treat this time like an appointment or important meeting – i.e., this time is neither changeable nor negotiable. Ever.
- Refuse Excuses.
Every time your inner mean girl/dude creeps in and tries to convince you that your dreams are unrealistic and/or that you’re not capable of making your dreams a reality, acknowledge the negative thought and consciously release it. Something that always works for me? I say, “Thanks for coming, negativity! Too bad you can’t stay!”
Remember: it’s not who you are that holds you back. It’s who you think you’re not. Rule your mind or it will rule you!
- Remove Distractions.
Remove push notifications from your phone or, even better, put it in a drawer somewhere. Shut down your social media alerts on your laptop. Make yourself unavailable for anything or anyone during your action time. Once you start doing this, you’ll feel free. And that freedom becomes addictive!
- Commit to a Deadline.
This is crucial. What does success look like for you and your dream? Give yourself a clear, achievable, and realistic deadline to make it happen. For example, “I’ll finish the first draft of my book within 6 months.” Break it up into small, bite-size deadlines, too, to hold yourself accountable along the way (e.g., “I’ll write two chapters a month for the next 6 months.”).
- Enjoy Yourself!
When we are doing/planning/designing/creating, we feel most energized, engaged, and alive.
Positive psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes the mental state of flow as “Being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you’re using your skills to the utmost.”
Allow yourself to be fully present and enjoy your flow.
When you have had one month of applied activity towards your dream, treat yourself! Enjoy a spa day, guys’ night out at your favorite bar, buy some new workout clothes, or take a weekend road trip. Do something that will inspire you to keep moving forward.
Do not wait for the world to recognize your greatness. Live it, and let the world catch up to you!