Are you able to look in the mirror most days and genuinely feel love for the beautiful person looking back at you? Are you able to love the heart expressed through those eyes? Are you able to feel complete forgiveness and compassion for that dear person? Are you able to look at them and smile?
That’s what self-love is about. So often, too often, it’s mistakenly called selfish. What’s selfish about feeling positive and loving towards the person you see in that mirror each day? Nothing. Nothing! To reach a place of such peace takes many tears, much soul stretching, and the shattering of conditioning. To ride that boat through the storms to reach such tranquil waters on the other side can be hard work. And there’s nothing selfish about it. It’s courageous. It’s also essential.
Yet self-love, sadly, does not come naturally to many adults, despite it coming naturally to children. You were once a child. So, there is a place within you that does know how to love yourself unconditionally, to cheer yourself on, to believe in yourself 100%, and to honor your own needs.
That place within you is your true home. It’s a place of peace. When you dwell there, you feel gratitude for being who you are, for being able to create and honor the life you are called for. It can take years to strip back the layers of conditioning, to unravel how your subconscious mind has translated past life events into belief systems that no longer serve you. But guess what? It doesn’t matter how long it takes. What matters is that this is the destination you shape your life around.
Every conscious choice in the direction of your heart’s calling is an act of self-love. One gentle step at a time is fine. It’s more than fine, actually; it’s perfect. Move at the pace that fits your readiness. But you must move. Make choices. Take steps. And little by little, you connect more strongly with that core of peace within. It’s calling you home into yourself.
When you feel that shift and start to feel more at ease in giving to yourself in this way, your confidence grows and the opinions of others lose importance. Once the voice of your own heart is heard, there’s no silencing it. In fact, the more courage you show in honoring it, the clearer it speaks. It comes alive with excitement knowing that, at last, you are on your way.
You will undoubtedly encounter some bumps along the road. There can be some pretty big potholes, too. But the destination becomes more and more enticing. Each glimpse of light radiating from your heart offers a beacon of strength.
Along the way, your heart also begins speaking about serving others. The heart wants to serve. But it doesn’t want you to do so unless you first learn to serve yourself with love. Your heart’s calling will always include the desire to make a positive difference in the lives of others. To do so authentically and in a balanced way, though, you do need to learn how to genuinely honor your own needs first. This prevents mental and emotional burn out, and ensures that you serve with ease and joy.
Ease and joy – that’s both the destination and the reward of the self-love journey. Ease, because you’re treating yourself lovingly, and moving forward more gently without pressure. And joy, because you’re then able to serve others from a place of peace and balance, at all times guided by your heart.
The path of self-love is the way home into yourself. It’s a brave journey of gentleness and surrender. It’s a destination of peace.
I wish you courage.
I wish you peace.