With summer in full swing, it’s a natural time to evaluate my year so far. In terms of my goals, it marks the start of my “halfway there” mode, when my focus sharpens and my motivation peaks. How are you feeling about the year so far?
Some of my clients are feeling …. not so great. A few hoped their new businesses would be prospering by now. Others wanted to jump ship from jobs they hated and land new positions in different industries. Still others wanted to be crushing their weight loss goals, or to be in new relationships with partners they adore.
The good news? Mid-year is a great time to jump-start your mojo and begin again. You don’t need a new calendar year or a list of resolutions to get yourself on track. Instead, start by cutting yourself some slack. Acknowledge the good things you’ve already accomplished this year. And they exist, even if it doesn’t seem like it—I promise!
Step One: Reflect
Whenever I feel as though the year isn’t shaking out as I’d hoped, I find that I can recalibrate my goals by asking myself the following questions:
- What unexpected lessons did I learn so far this year?
Did I discover a new favorite podcast or author? Did I learn to stop trusting a “friend” who doesn’t deserve my confidence? Did I learn how to communicate my needs to my husband in a positive and loving way? Did I finally walk away from a toxic relationship? Did I say yes to a last-minute weekend trip (which turned out to be amazingly fun)?
You don’t need to start a new job, run a marathon, or have a thriving side business to have made progress. Even saying no to something that you would have said yes to one year ago (just to please others) is a great sign of growth!
- Have my desires shifted?
Think about that for a second. Do you still want the same things you did in January? Maybe your true desires have changed, but you still hold yourself to an old blueprint that leaves you feeling heavy and uncertain. Perhaps you wanted a promotion a few months ago, but now you really want a career change. Maybe you wanted to move to a new city, but you’ve recently met someone romantically who lives in your current town.
Life is dynamic and ever-changing, so it’s natural (and good!) for your desires to shift too. You’re also allowed to change your mind! In fact, the fast-moving evolution of life is encouraging. If you let it be.
Step Two: Set Goals
In the spirit of moving toward what you want (and it’s OK if it’s the same things you wanted in January), it’s time to get busy.
- Write down three specific things you really, really, really want.
Imagine on New Year’s Eve a friend asks how 2017 was for you, and you answer, “Incredible!” (and mean it). What are three things that would need to change between now and then?
Be as specific as you can. No one knows what you truly want but you. Will you have taken a well-deserved vacation to the Amalfi Coast? Started volunteering at your local animal shelter? Recommitted to your daily yoga practice? Booked a speaking engagement that will raise your profile and be a stepping stone to meeting some of your mentors?
Write. It. Down. My goals are on my vision board – front and center where I see them every day.
- Set goals (and a timeline) for each desire.
Six months is a very long time! You can do so much between now and December 31st. In fact, if you’re truly inspired, you could probably achieve all your goals in merely one month (or less!). do all of this in one month (or less). It really is that simple. I suspect that the only barriers preventing you from moving forward are those in your mind.
It’s amazing what happens when our beliefs become aligned with our desires. When we get clear on what we really, really want and remind ourselves how capable we are, we can’t help but become motivated to act.
We become . . . unstoppable. So, what are you waiting for?