As a life coach, I have the privilege of supporting and guiding people who are going through some pretty challenging circumstances in their lives. They often ask me how they can maintain their inner balance, keep their energy positive and light, and still feel happy even when they’re surrounded by heaviness, struggle, and hardship.
When life feels unstable, chaotic and uncertain, we can no longer depend on our external circumstances to be the source of our security. We must start to take our attention off the drama unfolding in the external world, and turn inwards.
This is a powerful opportunity to get to work on creating inner stability and balance. Inner stability and balance comes from a calm, settled, and non-reactive mind.
It’s when our back is against the wall, life has thrown us a curveball, and we’re down on our knees in surrender that our need for faith, supportive practices, and self-care are at their greatest.
My Toolkit for Inner Balance & Positive Vibes
Today, I want to share with you my little toolkit of practices that support me to stay positive in tough times. Take from this list what resonates with you. Leave what doesn’t. And then create your own. What works for me may not work for you, but I hope it sparks a little light within you to encourage you to find new ways to support yourself.
- Shift Your Focus to Change Your Energy
Where our focus goes, our energy flows. Our thoughts and the stories we tell ourselves determine our emotions and energy. When we focus on lack, struggle, drama, and pain, we feel constricted and radiate a low, dull energy.
When big things are unfolding outside of us that we can’t control, we must simply stop struggling with it, and work with the only thing we can control: the power of our focus. You can use the power of your focus to create a shift in your energy, without needing anything outside of yourself to change.
You must remember that anything you give your attention, energy, and focus to expands. The more that you worry, fret and over-think your troubles and challenges, the stronger you’re making them and the more you’ll continue to experience them.
Shift your focus by:
Focusing on what is working right now, rather than what isn’t
Use the journaling prompt: What am I grateful to have going well in my life right now? Affirm: “Everything is working out perfectly for me.”
Focusing on what you do have, rather than what you don’t
Use the journaling prompt: What do I already have in my life right now that’s a match to what I want? Affirm: “All that I desire is on its way to me now.”
Focusing on what you love, rather than what you don’t like
Use the journaling prompt: What do I deeply love and appreciate about my life right now? Affirm: “More of what I love flows into my life each day.“
Focusing on peace, rather than focusing on fear
Use the journaling prompt: How can I bring more peace into my life right now? Affirm: “Peace begins with me.“
Focusing on the present moment, rather than worrying about the past or future
Use the journaling prompt: What do I need to let go of from the past or future, so I can be here right now? Affirm: “In this present moment, all is perfect, whole and complete.“
- Overdose on The Positive Stuff
Fear can really take over during tough times. It paints worst case scenario pictures in our mind and fills our focus with what we don’t want. What we need to remember is the more that we think these thoughts, the more we are creating them in our reality.
One of the most powerful things you can do is surround yourself with positive, uplifting, and supportive guidance and wisdom. Become very picky about the type of energy, messages, and people that you let into your space.
When we’re feeling sensitive and vulnerable, we need to do whatever we can to support ourselves. Wherever we can, we must withdraw from negativity and focus all our energy on the good stuff. Immerse yourself in inspiring books, write positive mantras and quotes on post-it notes where you can see them regularly, listen to uplifting podcasts and music, set aside time for meditation, and read your favorite blogs.
Some of my favorite positive resources are:
Books: Shawn Achor, The Happiness Advantage | Eckhart Tolle, The Power Of Now | Steve Chapman, Reinventing Yourself | Christine Hassler, Expectation Hangover | Marilee Adams, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life.
Youtube Channels: Gabrielle Bernstein | Byron Katie | Mindvalley | Marie Forleo
- Surrender and Ask for Guidance
One of the most comforting things to remember during tough times is that you’re never alone. We all have access to our loving inner voice, the higher guidance of our soul, and a whole support team of angels and spirit guides.
We all have varying levels of connection with these support systems, but it doesn’t mean they’re not there. To build the connection, all you need to do is start to believe and trust. Set the intention to open a stronger line of communication with your guidance.
When I’m needing support or guidance, I get out my journal and ask questions. Sometimes as I write them, the answers are already starting to flow, so I record those as well. Other times, nothing comes immediately but I find that I’m led to a book, a website, or a conversation that gives me the exact answer I need.
Ask Questions Like:
+ What do I need to know here?
+ How can I move through this challenge with more grace and ease?
+ What’s the lesson and learning in this for me?
+ What’s the next step for me to take?
+ What guidance can you give me around this situation?
- Let Emotion Move Through Your Body
Challenging times can create strong emotional reactions, stress, and anxiety. These powerful energies running through our body can overstimulate our mind causing us to feel scattered, panicked, and overwhelmed.
In the past, I tried to deal with these types of energies by journaling, but recently I discovered that a great workout is what I really need to let the energy move through me and get released. If I wake up feeling tense or unsettled, a high-intensity cardio and weight lifting session really hits the spot. Find what works best for you – maybe it’s yoga, walking on the beach, dancing, or running.
- Harness the Power of Appreciation
Even amidst the most challenging times, there’s still so much to appreciate. We are surrounded by beauty everywhere. Life is incredibly abundant. Magic is unfolding every day. It can be so easy to skip over these small things and disregard them, but instead we need to slow down enough to see the small miraculous moments.
Appreciation and gratitude are incredibly powerful practices where we shift into a loving perspective. These practices open our heart, drop us in to peace, and help us realize just how supported we are.
Take time each day, whether it be in the morning, evening, or even throughout the day, to pull out your journal and acknowledge and write down what you feel deeply blessed to have.
Reflect on these questions:
+ What do you love about your life right now?
+ What are you grateful for?
+ What do you have that you appreciate the most?
+ Where are you already living, being, and experiencing what you desire?
+ What can you acknowledge yourself for?