Anything worth doing in our lives will always have some fear attached to it. Having a baby, getting married, changing careers – all these life changes can stir up deep-seated fears. It helps to remember that this type of fear is good. It’s your way of questioning whether you really want the new life these changes will bring. It’s also a potent reminder that releasing and grieving the past is a necessary part of moving into your future.
Fear has a way of throwing us off balance, making us feel uncertain and insecure. But fear is not meant to discourage us. Its purpose is to notify us that we’re at the edge of our comfort zone, poised in between our old life and a new one. Whenever we face our fear, we overcome an inner obstacle and move into new and life-enhancing territory, both inside and out. The more we learn to respect and even welcome fear, the more we’ll be able to hear its wisdom – wisdom that will let us know that the time has come to move forward … or not. While comfort coupled with fear seems to be a contradiction, we can learn to honor our fear, recognize its arrival, listen to its intelligence, and respect it as a harbinger of transformation. Indeed, fear informs us that the change we’re contemplating is significant, enabling us to approach it with the proper reverence.
If you want to gain a greater understanding of the change you’re about to embark on, try meditating or journaling. Writing down whatever comes up – your worries, your sadness, your excitement, your hopes – is a great way to learn about yourself through the vehicle of fear, and to remember that fear almost always comes alongside anything worth doing in your life.