When your partner offers a gesture of affection, they’re making a bid for emotional connection. Turning towards these bids, even in tiny ways, helps to foster closeness in your relationship.
However, research shows that thinking negative thoughts about your partner can prevent you from recognizing and responding to their bids, which can create emotional distance over time.
If you think positive thoughts about your partner, even when you’re apart, you’ll recognize and respond to more of their bids when you’re together. This will build a solid foundation of trust and commitment in your marriage.