There’s a certain phenomenon I see all the time among people who have a big dream for their future.
They fantasize about this dream all the time. They meditate on it and make vision boards about it. They talk about it with friends and write about it in their journals.
But when it comes to taking action on their dream, they freeze up.
The voice of inspiration that has been guiding them grows fainter. The voice of ego gets louder and says things like:
- “Who am I kidding? I’m not qualified to do this.”
- “The time isn’t right. I have way too much going on to do this now.”
- “There are so many details I need to figure out.It’s impossible.”
- “This is a nice dream, but it’s unrealistic to think it could come true.”
Once the ego takes over, they feel overwhelmed and freaked out. They worry they’ll fail or look stupid.
So, they stop what they’re doing. They put it all away, telling themselves they’ll come back to it when the time is “right.”
And their dream remains just that… a dream.
If this resonates with you, I want you to know that you’re not alone.
But here’s the good news…
I’ve also personally witnessed thousands of people stop this cycle and start achieving their dreams!
This happened for me, too. There was a time when the idea of being a coach seemed like a pipe dream. I had so many ideas that I didn’t know where to start. And whenever I did start I’d start doubting myself and freaking out.
But my dream couldn’t be contained. I knew I had to follow it. So, I took little right actions. I focused moment to moment, day to day. One action at a time I got closer to my dream. And now I’ve manifested a life beyond my wildest dreams.
I’ve seen this happen time and time again for so many people. And now I want to help you achieve your dream, too.
Do you have a big dream for your future? Here are three things you can do TODAY to start achieving your dream.
- Take one little right action.
When I started my coaching business, I felt overwhelmed by all the things I wanted to create. Ideas were pouring in. I felt incredibly inspired but had no idea where to begin. I kept stopping and starting because I had trouble focusing. I just wanted to go big! But instead I felt frustrated and stuck.
But I met several mentor coaches who were incredibly successful and impactful. I wanted to know their secrets, so I worked up the courage to ask them, “How did you get to this place?”
To my surprise, each of them told me some iteration of “Just a lot of little right actions.”
They made it sound so simple. I took their words to heart and began taking little right actions. All my overwhelm subsided. I gained clarity and focus. Over time, those little right actions added up in a bigger way than I ever could’ve imagined.
This is the lesson: Whatever you want to do, no matter how big it is, simply start by taking one little right action.
If you want to write, write the first draft of a blog post.
If you want to start a podcast, record an episode using whatever equipment you have available.
If you want to make inspirational YouTube videos, set up your channel.
If you want to design jewelry, make one simple piece.
Even if you want to do a hundred different things… start with one little right action.
You don’t build anything big overnight. And if you believe you need to do everything right now, I guarantee that will stop you from doing anything at all. So just take one little right action.
- Get rid of expectations.
There’s one really important thing to know when you start taking action toward achieving your dream: You must get rid of all expectations.
Forget about who might read your blog, listen to your podcast, watch your videos, or buy your jewelry.
If you want to host a podcast, record your first episode without expecting a single person to hear it. If you want to make jewelry, make a beautiful piece of jewelry without expecting to sell it.
Whatever you dream of doing, do it just for the sake of doing it.
Once you take away the expectation and actually get into the act of doing, the experience and expression of the DOING puts you into a whole new energy!
If you want to put a blog up, just write it and publish it and let it be out there without expecting a single person to read it. Let it be up so that you can feel the vibration of you having done that work!
By taking away expectations you free yourself up to focus 100% on the action itself. This is so simple, but it makes a profound difference. Taking action becomes effortless and fun.
I want to be clear that taking action without any expectations doesn’t mean that you won’t have readers, listeners, buyers, clients, etc. It doesn’t mean that whatever you’re creating won’t become wildly popular.
It just lifts you out of that funk of stagnation and gets you into action.
This tip blows my mind time and time again. Try it. You’ll see for yourself.
- Don’t judge yourself.
Self-judgment is the #1 thing that blocks you from doing what you want to do. Earlier in this post I mentioned that our ego voice loves to sneak in and say things like, “Who do I think I am? I’m not qualified to do that.”
The ego loves to pop up whenever we’re learning something new. You’ll think something like, “I’m having to work to figure this out, so it must mean I’m bad at it. I’m making mistakes and it’s not coming effortlessly, so it’s just not meant to be.”
Here’s what to do when this happens…
When you realize that you’re judging yourself, witness your judgment without judgment. Open up a notebook and draw four columns on the page.
In column 1, answer this question: Who am I judging? In this case, the answer is “Myself.”
In column 2, answer: How does this judgment make me feel? Be very descriptive of how it makes you feel both emotionally and physically.
In column 3, answer: Why do I feel justified in this judgment?
In column 4, answer: What moment in my life triggered me to feel justified in this judgment? Take your time with this one. You may want to meditate for 10 minutes on this question or free-write so your subconscious mind can come forth and reveal the answer to you.
Next, recognize that this moment of self-judgment is a spiritual assignment, and show up for it.
Spiritual assignments show us that we’re always being guided, even when it doesn’t feel like it.
You’re being presented with a beautiful opportunity to heal. Take it.